What do think when you see these words? Sure, it’s a term used in “social media,” (which is another great term!), but think about the individual words, and what they mean to you. Don’t Google them, or look at what Merriam-Webster says. This is personal.
Want to know what I think?
Really? Then why are you here? This is my blog! Rude!
Gosh. I’m sorry you had to witness that. But enough about you. I was telling you what I think.
I think that the Friend Request button should say “Introduction Request.” The true request for friendship is everything you do and say in your interactions with a person after they Accept your Introduction Request.
Sounds simple enough, right? (Hey! My blog, my premise!)
I’ve been lucky enough to make several good friends on Facebook, and reconnect with some from the “real world” (another great term!) pals, too. When I think about how the best of those Facebook friendships began, they all have something in common. They mostly involved me thanking someone for sharing my post, or vice versa, which began a more personal conversation based on shared interests.
[warning]None of them, by the way, began with “Thanks for being my friend! Here’s a link where you can do a bunch of things for me.”[/warning]
Real life is similar. I have “friends” who take an interest in my life, and I in theirs. We do things to help each other because we care about each other. I also have “friends” who take. They take, and the only time they give is when strings are attached. Not pretty bow strings, either. They give only when they need something specific in return.
I mostly avoid the annoying takers, and welcome the good ones with a smile. [important]In that spirit, I want to say a few words to one of the good ones, Emily Johnson, who is always giving, supportive and encouraging. I’m glad the seat in that Java class was empty that day, Emily. Happy Birthday, my friend![/important]
Whether in real life, or on social media, we encounter nice people, asshats, and plenty of others in-between. Treasure the nice ones, and encourage the in-betweeners, but Please Don’t Feed the Asshats. It only encourages them.
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and keep an eye out for Tales From the Mist on October 17th!